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November 07, 2018
By Doug Dickerson
Staying Close and Letting Go
 
So, you’re the parent of a high school student.  Where did the time go? It seems like only yesterday that you were holding that little one’s hand reassuring her or him that everything was going to be fine as you walked him or her through the kindergarten doors.
 
You packed them lunches and celebrated their achievements during those elementary school years.  You posted their pictures on the refrigerator door and placed that Honor Roll sticker on the back of your car.  You went on field trips and collected bugs for science projects. You chartered and survived the treacherous waters of all things middle school.  You consoled broken hearts. You learned algebra. There were even times when you wondered if that child really was yours. But you did it!
 
The high school years are no less busy.  Course loads have increased, GPA’s are being calculated, college is on the horizon, and you just long for time to stand still a little while longer.
 
But times have changed.  Your child is involved in sports, is perhaps working a part time job, and is involved in more social activities than you can keep up with.  And slowly you feel your time with them slipping away.
 
The high school years are times of transition as well as times to cherish.  So how do you come to terms with keeping them close and letting them go? As one who has survived it with two of my own, allow me to share a few tips.
 
Embrace your changing role
Your role as the parent of a high school student is as important as ever.  But it’s changing. What your child needs and wants from you now is not the same as when they were in elementary or middle school.  It’s not so much about what to do as it is about how to do it. Now it’s about guiding them with life lessons, living their values, and applying their faith.
 
Be present in the moment
Every moment you have now with your high school student is a gift.  One day you will blink and wonder where the time went. Staying close is about being in the moment with your child and simply loving them.

 
Create new memories
Each season in your child’s life is rewarding.  While they may have outgrown certain things from years gone by that might embarrass them now, you can create new memories that reflect this current stage in their life.  It’s never too late to create a new memory with your child. Even in high school.
 
Embrace the future
For your child, the future can seem uncertain and scary.  Navigating high school with an eye toward the future can create a lot of anxiety.  While they may be reluctant to admit it, they need assurance of your love, that everything is going to be fine, and that you are in their corner.  How you embrace their future will give them an added dose of confidence they need going forward.
 
Reaffirm your faith
The scripture says in Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it” (ESV).  While you are in this season of life with your high school student, take time to reaffirm the one bond that will solidify that relationship unlike anything else- your faith in God.
While you strive to stay close, all the while you will have to let go, your faith is what will bind it all together.  Be it close at hand, or close in heart, letting go is all a part of His plan.

 

 

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October 22, 2018
By Alicia Dickerson
It all Starts with Hello
 
The ushering in of fall brings us to the end of the first quarter. It is hard to believe teachers and students have been walking the halls of our school for 9 weeks now. We have experienced crazy weather, a lot of learning, many hours of studying at home and at school, and we have watched as many new students have begun to make new friends and have begun to find their place in our family of Faith.
 
Making new friends  or going to a new school is always a difficult season and not feeling included makes learning hard as well. Everyone has a place in the kingdom and our everyday walk is the kingdom on earth. So with that in mind the 7th graders sponsored It Starts with Hello week. They waved  signs and high fived the elementary school kids and made you matter notes for the high school students the week of the September 24th. It was all to help that one kid who was searching for a place wondering if they belong. You see, school violence usually occurs with students who are left out ,made fun of ,or choose to be loners. God did not call us to be alone , but he called us to be together .As a matter of fact he says two are better than one. If we can teach our children to reach out to the downcast or the lonely then the future will be a better place.
 
Loneliness and bullying are not  unique to public schools. There are kids at our school, who live in homes where parents are absent or someone only shows anger, these behaviors at home can manifest themselves at school. They may choose to sit alone because they are embarrassed. They may treat their classmates mean because that’s all they know . We must target those students with the love and grace that only God can give.
 
So the question begs itself- What can we do? Here are a few ideas to comfort the lonely and to combat the bully.
 
For the loner:
  1. If your child comes home saying Johnny always sits by himself at lunch-encourage them to sit next to him tomorrow
  2. Jenn never plays at recess-encourage your child to invite them to join their game
  3. Host a program that encourages positive words and encouragement-
It Starts with Hello -https://www.sandyhookpromise.org/startwithhelloweek
Say Something-https://www.sandyhookpromise.org/saysomethingresources
Positive Post its- https://cyberbullying.org/positive-post-it-day
For those feeling bullied:
  1. Teach your child to say something.
  2. Watch what your children are doing on the internet.-You are the parent!
  3. Talk to your child about their day.-Communication is key to everything.
 
These are just a few things we can do at home and school to create a positive learning environment for our students.
 
Let us always remember as Christians the love of Christ covers us all. If we reach out to those in need with love and understanding we can go a long way to bring them to the freedom Christ brings. He is a friend to the friendless and lover of all. Let’s take this month of change to make a change at our school and reach out to those who are hurting. Remember it all starts with hello.

 

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September 25, 2018
By Darcy Turner
Come to the Table
 
As I began to think about what I would share about in the blog this week many things came to mind.  Technology, routines, discipline and many more, but I settled on the family dinner table. As a child dinnertime was family time.  Most nights we were all home for dinner and shortly after my dad got home from work the four of us were seated at the table eating whatever my mom had prepared for us.  The television was turned off and it was our time to talk about our day and share a meal together. When my daughters were younger we did the same thing. Some of my fondest memories with my girls are the conversations we shared around our dinner table.  As a mom of teenagers who have busy schedules I must confess that family dinner time seems to be harder and harder to achieve, and I miss it.
 
I want to encourage you and even suggest to you that family meal time could be one of the most important times of the day for you and your child.  This is not only the time that we fuel our bodies with a good meal after a long day, but we fuel our minds and souls with encouraging words, laughter, and sound advice.  It’s a time when our children can talk and have our undivided attention. I know some of you have schedules that include practices, picking up from aftercare, grocery shopping, committee meetings and more and the last thing you want to think about is a family dinner.  I want to encourage you to be less concerned about what the dinner is and more focused on who is at your table and what is said around it. The following excerpt is taken from “The Family Dinner Project”:
 
Do family dinners have any scientific benefits?
Over the past 15 years researchers have confirmed what parents have known for a long time: sharing a family meal is good for the spirit, the brain and the health of all family members. Recent studies link regular family dinners with many behaviors that parents pray for: lower rates of substance abuse, teen pregnancy and depression, as well as higher grade-point averages and self-esteem. Studies also indicate that dinner conversation is a more potent vocabulary-booster than reading, and the stories told around the kitchen table help our children build resilience. The icing on the cake is that regular family meals also lower the rates of obesity and eating disorders in children and adolescents. What else can families do that takes only about an hour a day and packs such a punch?
 
I am blessed to have all of my family living in this area so Sunday afternoon is family dinner at my parents.  It is a tradition that we have been practicing since my oldest niece (now 29) was about a year old. It is something that all of us look forward to not only because it is great food (and it really is), but because it is time that we all get together to share our lives; those important things that are happening to us now, and also remember the important things of our past. The good times and the bad; funny stories; and missed loved ones. It is how our younger generation gets to know those who came before and why we do things the way we do them. What values are important to us and why. It is a time that none of us want to miss and we miss those who are missing from the table.
 
This weekend my two daughters invited my husband and me to join them at a new “Asian Fusion” restaurant.  While the restaurant was not particularly interesting to either of us we certainly did not pass up the invitation.  We were both just grateful that they still want to include us in their dining experience. I will tell you the conversation was great, but I probably won’t be dining there again (Unless asked by my daughters).
 
Here are a few tips and ideas for family meal time:
  • Keep your meals simple  (on busy weekdays the crock pot is my best friend)
  • It doesn’t have to be dinner; breakfast, lunch, or dessert may work better for you
  • Keep the conversation light; don’t use it as time to scold about behavior or grades
  • Let your kids help with meal preparation or choose a meal for the week
  • Pressed for time….. Pick up take out and sit together at the table
  • Turn off the television and establish the rule that cell phones and other electronics are not allowed at the table
  • Have breakfast for dinner and come dressed in your pjs
  • Get “dressed up” for dinner
  • Have “conversation starters” at each person's seat to get the conversation going
 
Take it from a mom who is almost an empty nester; you will not regret establishing  family meal time. You and your children will cherish the memories.
 
Come to the table everyone!
 
Darcy Turner
Elementary Principal
 

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September 18, 2018
By Joy Figueroa

What’s the deal with Grandparents Day….

“Marian McQuade, a West Virginia housewife, came up with the idea of setting a day aside to encourage families to visit their elderly relatives. Ms. McQuade went to her Senators, Jennings Randolph and Robert Byrd to make Grandparents Day a national holiday.

It took a while to reach the White House, but finally, in 1978 National Grandparents Day was signed into law by President Jimmy Carter.” (https://familylinevideo.com/history-grandparents-day/)

The month of September was chosen for Grandparents Day as a symbol of the “autumn years” of life. It's usually celebrated the second Sunday in September.

Grandparents are such a treasure!  They have all the answers! My Grandma could always sense when something was wrong, could track down anyone you happen to be looking for and to this day she will support anything you want to do. Grandma is now 95 and today she told me she is old and tired but thinks she may go horseback riding! My Grandpa always has advice for everyone (even if you don't ask for it). He is soft spoken and so calm-natured. He's prior Marine war veteran, he's been a commercial fisherman since he was a little boy.  Even now at 94 he still goes out fishing. From my grandparents, I learned to do everything with integrity and take pride in my morals and values.

My Nanny and Poppy were my spiritual guides. When I was a little girl, they introduced me to Jesus, his word and his un-measurable, amazing love. Even though  I only had my Nanny and Poppy for a short time, their impact on my life still lives on and I miss them terribly.

As a mom, I see my parents as grandparents to my girls and all I can say is WOW!  They have such a strong bond and such a sweet relationship and friendship!  At Faith, we see this bond with our students whenever grandma picks them up from school or is at one of our school functions.  The little ones have a smile from ear to ear when one of their grandparents comes to school.

Grandparents are role models, mentors and friends.  We are looking forward to celebrating all of our FCS Grandparents this Grandparents Day!

Many blessings,

Mrs. Figueroa

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